7.13.2016

Why the Right Person at the Wrong Time Doesn't Exist

I spent so much time in the past months after my last "relationship" (if you can even call it that) examining over and over again the circumstances in each of our lives that led to us not working out. Eventually, I came to the conclusion that we would have worked had we met at a different time, had we not both just gotten out of previous relationships, had we not wanted different things, and so on and so forth. Yeah, we had some really great times together. Yeah, I found him at the wrong time. But overall, he was just the wrong person for me. God doesn't make mistakes in his timing. I don't think he brings two people together to tease them, to say "hey, look how perfect y'all would be together if I had just let you meet five months earlier or two years later." He does everything according to his perfect plan.

"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." -Eccelsiastes 3:1

Everything that happens to you has a purpose, and now I've finally come to believe that the purpose of whatever he and I had was to show me how I didn't deserve to be treated. I walked away from the whole thing broken, and distraught, and knowing that I had been done wrong and that I deserved better. That didn't make it any easier, but I knew in the depths of my heart that I would find someone who treated me how I deserved to be treated. 

"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." -Proverbs 4:23

I came away so brokenhearted because I had failed to guard my heart. I saw the warning signs. I heard him say that he didn't want anything serious. But I played his game. Because I thought I could change him. I thought I could convince him otherwise. I opened my heart to someone who took it for granted, and that is why the right love at the wrong time isn't a thing. Someone who is right for you, someone who adores you and loves you, won't take your heart for granted. They won't take the love you show them and act like they don't care. They will make it work with you. Timing won't matter with the right person. No matter how busy you are with work, how distraught you are over your past relationship, how much you feel like you just don't have your life together, the right person will make it work with you. You will want to make it work and they will, too. 

So don't stay hung up on the wrong boy for so long like I did. Take what you learned and realize that in God's eyes and in God's plan, he simply wasn't right for you. 

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